Many times, like Job, we like to complain to God and ask why certain things happen to us. I say give up the right to know why and instead trust God that He will give you the grace to stand during your trials and to withstand the fire.
Asking and questioning God if brought too far will lead us to doubt and anger toward God, which is the most foolish thing to do. God is our Creator, He is all powerful, nothing is ever a surprise to God 'cause He knows everything. And all His plans for us are for our good and not to harm us.
In Job 38:1-4 God answered Job's complaints and questions:
"Then the LORD answered Job out of the storm. He said:
"Who is this that darkens my counsel with words without knowledge?
Brace yourself like a man; I will question you, and you shall answer me.
Where were you when I laid the earth's foundation? Tell me, if you understand."
In our finite minds we cannot understand what we are going through. But our Infinite LORD, our Father, sees and knows everything. In Job 38 and the passages following God asked Job a whole bunch of rhetorical questions. God made everything;the mountains, fields, sun and moon and stars, and every animal, He knows everything, we are more important to God than animals.
Luke 12:6-7
Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? Yet not one of them is forgotten by God.
Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don't be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.
So in telling Job about how He knows and cares about creation, God was telling Job how infinite He was compared to Job's situation.
Job had accused God. He had justified himself instead in trusting in the Rock of Ages; he had discredited God's justice because of his situation. But God answered him:
Job 40:1-2,7-8
The LORD said to Job:"Will the one who contends with the Almighty correct him? Let him who accuses God answer him!..."Brace yourself like a man; I will question you, and you shall answer me. "Would you discredit my justice? Would you condemn me to justify yourself?
How did Job answer?
He recognized his unworthiness...and promised to stop complaining.
Job 40:3-5
Then Job answered the LORD:
"I am unworthy-- how can I reply to you? I put my hand over my mouth.
I spoke once, but I have no answer-- twice, but I will say no more."
He recognized his sin in what he said- how he had insulted God in questioning God, which was basically "darkening God's counsel". Job did not understand what happened, yet he dared question the One who understands all things.
Job 42:1-6
Then Job replied to the LORD:
"I know that you can do all things; no plan of yours can be thwarted.
'Who is this that obscures my counsel without knowledge?' Surely I spoke of things I did not understand, things too wonderful for me to know.
'Listen now, and I will speak; I will question you, and you shall answer me.'
My ears had heard of you but now my eyes have seen you.
Therefore I despise myself and repent in dust and ashes."
Has this ever happened to you? It recently happened to me. I discovered lumps in my body, and thought of the possibility it could be cancer. In all the turmoil in my thoughts following the discovery, the Lord spoke to me in my heart: "Were you there when I laid the foundations of the earth, when I made the sun and moon? Watch and see what I can do in your situation."
A day later, lumps turned out to be benign cysts. But even if they were cancerous, I KNOW the Lord is TRUSTWORTHY. I will trust and love the Lord no matter what happens to me.